It is easy to be spiritually positive and philosophical about life when things are going well. Even when exposed to life's misfortunes from a distance--distant relatives or acquaintances--it's fairly easy to conclude that life is bringing them the experiences appropriate to their lives. But what do we do when misfortune strikes close to home,to us or to our immediate family? And how are we to react to misfortune from several directions all at once?
What are the secrets to surviving and thriving in the midst of life circumstances and situations which seem unfair and undeserved? Our ability to deal successfully in such situations is the key to peace and calm--the joyous life.
My initial reaction to bad events is to take action-do something. But the key is not what to do, but who to be. Life is bringing the circumstances we face for a reason. You may not understand the reason immediately--maybe not for some time. But assume there is a reason and it is the perfection of life, so embrace it.
Then step back and observe what is happening from a distance. Pretend it is one year later and you are looking back at the current situation. Remember that this is not the end of the world--you are an immortal soul and what is happening is simply the experience of human life.
Listen to the story your mind is telling you about what is happening. Is it an oft-repeated theme? Are you being victim, loser, struggler, martyr, or villain? Is this a script you have written and played out before, perhaps many times? What payoff accrues to you from living within this story? Be honest. There is a payoff to an often repeated story line, or you wouldn't be living it over and over.
Maybe this isn't about your story. Maybe you are merely a supporting character in someone else's story. What gifts can you bring to the situation?
Be aware of who you are being in response to what is happening. Are you fearful, angry, vengeful, or depressed? Are you distant, supportive, loving, or helpful? Ask yourself. "Is this who I am?" and "Is this who I choose to be?" Maybe you do choose to be angry, fearful, or depressed for a time, but keep it short. Consciously realize you are being as you are, and when you've had enough of that state then choose another state of being that is more representative of your highest self.
Recognize that the Universe brings you circumstances you consciously or subconsciously call forth. Do these circumstances allow you to continue the story that describes who you think you are? Or do these circumstances give you a frame of reference so you can experience bravery, joy, insight, or love? There are no coincidences--no bad luck.
This moment is just the blink of an eye in the infinite life of our souls. Live within the present moment while simultaneously watching it from a distance as an impartial observer. Experience the present moment and grow with it by conscious choice.
About the author: opywrite 2002, all rights reserved. Jerry Lopper is an author, personal coach, and consultant. Visit http://jlopper.home.att.net and http://www.keen.com/CoachJerry to learn more.